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We need to talk about women’s bodies – without shame | Fiona Sturges

Are vulvas having a moment? It’s a ridiculous question, I know, given that more than half of us have them. It’s like asking if bicycles are finally fashionable, or if fingernails are now a thing. But in these supposedly enlightened times, our lady-parts continue to be overlooked, misunderstood, bossed about and violated. Still, it’s been heartening of late to see vulvas (or vaginas, or fannies, or foofs – let each woman decide what she calls what’s in her pants) discussed more openly, shown off in museums and celebrated on television and in books. This isn’t about the vulva-shaped soaps and cushions flooding gift shops, or Gwyneth Paltrow and her daft vaginal eggs. I’m talking about cultural conversations and artefacts that illuminate and educate us all on matters that, by rights, should b...
LGBT Same Sex Relationships [Video]
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LGBT Same Sex Relationships [Video]

At last, a generation of schoolchildren will grow up knowing it’s OK to be LGBT | Paul Twocock Students across the country are heading back to school this week, and while this might not seem momentous, for Stonewall, this school year marks the beginning of the end of a decades-long campaign to get an inclusive education system in England. In September 2020, new regulations for teaching relationships and sex education (RSE) in English schools come into force. It will be a landmark moment – a whole generation will attend schools that not only accept LGBT people and same-sex relationships but also celebrate and offer support on the issues that young LGBT people face. The guidance means that primary schools will teach about different families, which of course includes L...
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Birmingham school row: ‘This is made out to be just Muslims v gays. It’s not’

“People of quality respect equality,” says Aisha, shyly sticking rainbow feathers on to the peace posters she’s just made. The teenager is one of half a dozen Muslim pupils from South and City College Birmingham attending a creative workshop promoting LGBTQ rights in the city. They are joined by Muslim girls and women, mothers, students and refugees, who have crammed into the Ort gallery to meet and collaborate with members of the local Muslim LGBTQ community. A two-year-old careers between the tables, which are scattered with paint pens, rainbow paper and pots of glue. One mother in a niqab who homeschools her three children tells me she’s here to make sure they understand “how to respect other people who might be different”. Another, a migrant from Iraq, listens carefully to the experie...
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‘If you’re going to watch porn, know it’s not real’: meet Britain’s sex-positive influencers

Despite being a sex blogger with more than 86,000 Instagram followers, Oloni isn’t getting any. “I have to be careful about who I’m sleeping with,” the 29-year-old influencer says with a laugh. “It has to be with someone really low-key. The last person I was having sex with, it went pear-shaped. So I’m avoiding that right now.” But the impact of celebrity status on her sex life doesn’t seem to bother Oloni – real name Dami Olonisakin – too much. “I don’t feel like having sex with anyone at the moment.” She cracks a wide smile. “There’s no one worthy of me sleeping with them!” We’re sitting in the plant-filled Ilford recording studio in which Olonisakin, Shakira Scott, 31, and Shani Jamilah, 23, record their no-holds-barred sex and relationships podcast, Laid Bare. They eat sweets and catc...
Assault Violence, Children Teens, Parents Family, Sex Education, Sex Life

Ne me touche pas… the shift in sex and power sweeping France

A few years ago I spent the weekend in a château deep in the rural Auvergne region of central France. Even more memorable than the crumbling property with its hectares of forest and decaying outbuildings, were the two elderly men to whom we were introduced when we arrived, who were enjoying an afternoon gin and tonic in the library. One – the father of my friend Guillaume – was Guillaume’s mother’s longtime lover until her recent death. The other was his mother’s husband and the owner of the château where Guillaume grew up. The two men had remained on excellent terms for 40 years. The setup had all the ingredients of one of those lyrical French films starring Gérard Depardieu, replete with lavish interiors and rhapsodic landscapes looping through the changing seasons. It also ticked every...
Abortion, Assault Violence, Children Teens, Health, LGBTQ, Parents Family, Sex Education, Sex Life

Sex education: ‘We can’t let teachers perpetuate a homophobic or transphobic narrative’

Relationships and sex education (RSE) will be compulsory for all secondary pupils in England from September, and primary schools will also need to teach about relationships. What these courses will contain, however, is left mainly to headteachers and governors, in consultation with parents. The Department for Education has issued guidance for teachers, but does it go far enough? No, say young sex educators, who want the lessons to go beyond the mechanics of condoms on cucumbers to take fuller account of contentious issues such as consent, LGBTQ+, sex abuse and forced marriage. Milly Evans: ‘When we’re talking about sexual health, we should be talking about sexual health between same-sex partners.’ Milly Evans, 20 Activist and founder of I Support Sex Education, a website encourag...
Children Teens, LGBTQ, Parents Family, Sex Education, Sex Life

Don’t ‘celebrate’ gay people, just accept us, says teacher at centre of schools row

Andrew Moffat, the gay teacher targeted by Muslim anti-LGBT protesters at Parkfield community school in Birmingham, is wearing his usual rainbow lanyard and says he feels safe again. A year on from the ugly scenes outside the school gate, his hands no longer tremble, there have been no recent death threats, and he doesn’t have to call home when he arrives at work each morning. He’s just published his second book, No Outsiders: Everyone Different, Everyone Welcome, a new version of his award-winning lessons on equality, No Outsiders. As a result of his experience at Parkfield a year ago, where activists and parents protested against lessons at the school, wrongly claiming they were part of the government’s plans for relationships and sex education, and hundreds of children were withdrawn f...
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Sex Education creator Laurie Nunn: ‘You can’t make sex scenes flowery!’

Laurie Nunn is remembering her own experience of sex education. It was, she says, “practically nonexistent” at her school, which is ironic, given that she is responsible for one of the most candid TV shows ever made about the subject. “They didn’t talk about female pleasure at all,” says the writer. “I’m in my 30s and I feel like I’m only now starting to get the right language to talk about my own body. I think, ‘God, I wish I’d known this stuff when I was in my 20s.’” When Sex Education was picked up, Nunn had no big credits to her name. She had written and directed a couple of short films and had worked up ideas for production companies, but nothing had quite landed. Then, suddenly, she had a hit – such a hit that Netflix’s UK headquarters now has a Sex Education-themed floor. (We meet ...
How Being in a Long-Distance Relationship Prepared Me for Social Distancing
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How Being in a Long-Distance Relationship Prepared Me for Social Distancing

By Kira Eng, 17, Staff Writer April 10, 2020 With all the social distancing happening because of the coronavirus, a lot of people haven’t had as much contact with their partner as they’d probably like. If you’re one of these people, I’ve got some tips as you navigate your relationship during this time. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship since my partner went to college about a year ago, and I’ve learned a few things that I think could be helpful! Good morning and good night texts can help bridge the distance. These simple texts can start and end your day with your partner, even if you can’t “see” or text each...
Sexual Assault Awareness Month, #MeToo and Teens
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Sexual Assault Awareness Month, #MeToo and Teens

By Samantha Wilk, 18, Staff Writer April 30, 2020 Last month, the infamous Hollywood film producer Harvey Weinstein was sentenced to 23 years in prison for rape and sexual assault. Not only was this a victory for Weinstein’s victims, but also for everyone affected by the #MeToo movement. Weinstein’s sentencing gives hope to sexual assault survivors that other abusers will also be subjected to legal consequences for their actions. As Sexual Assault Awareness Month comes to a close, I’ve been reflecting on how #MeToo has affected me as well as other teens. A Little History The #MeToo movement was originally started in...